Thursday, 20 December 2012

The talking Santa

Over December Calum discovered the IPad, this lead to me and Toppie having to find app's for kids. One of which was the talking Santa.

Calum loves Santa, and especially loved bowling Santa over with a snowball and chatting to him, the funniest was smacking santa (not my favourite bit, but santa gets him back by jumping on the presents and squashing them).


The IPad app's amaze me.

- Toppie se Vrou

Friday, 30 November 2012

Bath-time issues

Calum has always loved to bath. So much so that he used to undress himself if he even saw water being run in a bath. Even if the bath wasn’t for him. I used to have to share my bath with him.

Lately he is the worst. Refuses to get undressed. Refuses to get in the water and just sits on the step in the bath, then screams when we put him in the water. Screams and shouts if you wet his hair, screams when you wash his body. Screams if you splash water in his face by mistake. It’s got so bad he screams when we take him out and dry him. There’s always an issue with the towel, or he wants to do it himself. Always something. Then there’s screaming because we dry him, dry his hair, apply cream, put clothes on.

Aren’t kids supposed to enjoy water?

Today I even had to bath Codi in the bathroom or he wouldn’t get into the water at all and then after he refused to let us dress him, he did this….


I’m digging into my everything for the strength to deal with tomorrow’s bath-time.

Any ideas? Please I’m at a point where I’m just going to let him be dirty for the next 2 weeks.

Cheers vir Eers

- Toppie se Vrou

Thursday, 29 November 2012

Monkey see monkey do….

As I watch my boys grow up. I watch how Coel learns from Calum and copies everything he does. It’s so cute to watch. If Calum jumps on a chair, Coel jumps on the same chair. If Calum gives me a hug, Coel hugs me to. Coel and Calum’s favourite thing is Ring a Ring of Roses…

I tell people Coel is my new party trick. Clap your hands… Stomp your feet…. Turn around… Hi-five…



It’s also a good reminder that our children observe and take in everything we do. So we must always remember to practice what we preach and watch what we say and do as there are always little eyes watching…

Cheers vir Eers
Toppie se Vrou

Friday, 2 November 2012

Wednesday, 31 October 2012

These are a few of my favourite things.

This year I’m taking part in the Blogging Secret Santa that @thestilettomum ( is organising. You can take part too, even if you don’t blog. Take a look.

I hear we’re all supposed to do a post on our favourite things or the things we like, and now I can’t get this song out of my head. It’s my pleasure…

Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens,
bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens,
brown paper packages tied up with strings,
these are a few of my favorite things.

Cream colored ponies and crisp apple strudels,
door bells and sleigh bells and schnitzel with noodles.
Wild geese that fly with the moon on their wings.
these are a few of my favorite things.

Girls in a white dresses with a blue satin sashes,
snowflakes that stay on my nose and eyelashes,
silver white winters that melt into springs,
these are a few of my favorite things.

When the dog bites, when the bee stings,
when I'm feeling sad,
I simply remember my favorite things,
and then I don't feel so bad.

Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens,
bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens,
brown paper packages tied up with strings,
these are a few of my favorite things.

Cream colored ponies and crisp apple strudels,
door bells and sleigh bells and schnitzel with noodles.
Wild geese that fly with the moon on their wings.
these are a few of my favorite things.

Girls in white dresses with blue satin sashes,
snowflakes that stay on my nose and eyelashes,
silver white winters that melt into springs,
these are a few of my favorite things.

When the dog bites, when the bee stings,
when I'm feeling sad,
I simply remember my favorite things,
and then I don't feel so bad.

Now that I’ve got that out of my system, things I like. Being a mom of three I hardly ever get a chance to spoil myself or a free minute to myself. When I do, it’s usually in the bath where I get a half hour of peace and quiet. I like bubbles, lovely smelling bubbles, bath oils, candles, chocolate and champagne with strawberries. All things that help you unwind and relax, and take a break from the kids.

Cheers vir Eers

- Toppie se Vrou

Tuesday, 30 October 2012

I solemnly swear.

There seems to be a stereo-type that breast-feeding is a bad thing. Mothers are made to feel ashamed when they need to feed their babies while around other people. We are made to feel like it’s rude and disrespectful to others. Unless we go and sit on our own in a closed up room.

Why then, do mothers produce milk? It’s the most natural thing in the world yet we are to feel shameful for doing it in public.

Well I’ve had enough; it is after all the best thing for my child. I will feed my child when she is hungry, without sitting in a room and feeling lonely. Nightshift is lonely enough as it is.

I’m not saying I’m going to just expose myself to the world, I will be dignified and cover up with a blanket or something, but I will stand amongst friends, family or even in a shop and feed my child.

Yesterday was my first try at this – breastfeeding in a mall thing, and I did it so gracefully you wouldn’t even have noticed it was happening. There were some people who assumed what was happening and to those. KEEP YOUR DIRTY LOOKS TO YOURSELVES.

I solemnly swear to breast-feed my child when she is hungry, without being ashamed of it.

Who’s with me???

Cheers vir Eers

Monday, 29 October 2012

First post-preggy shopping trip

I feel like I’ve been pregnant since 2008. Well I kind of have, Calum is only 3 and a few months, Coel a
year and a few months and Codi-Beth not even a month. I’ve always figured it takes 9 months for your
body to bend out of shape, you should be allowed 9 months to get back into shape. After Calum it took
me about 7 months to get back to wearing my normal clothes, but after Coel I never had time to get back
as I was pregnant with Codi quite soon after.

Needless to say, shopping for myself of any sort has been pretty non-existent in the last 3 years.

The problem now being we have a wedding to go to next weekend, and I have nothing to wear. My
MIL (Mother in law) decided I needed a new outfit and also insisted on taking me shopping for said outfit.

It’s very daunting trying to find something new to wear, especially when you’re not feeling comfortable
in your own skin. Worrying about the bump my tummy still has, the stretch-marks I know are there, the
blue veins sticking out on my legs. Finding something that makes you feel pretty again is a big deal.
Luckily, I only had to try on 3 outfits today, of which I ended up buying 2. Not to mention the sexy shoes
I got that make my legs look long and slender and skinny.

I think that if I’m honest with myself, the chances of my body going back to its pre-baby sexy varsity days
look are slim. It doesn’t mean I’m not still pretty or attractive. It just means I’ve matured and I have 3
beautiful rewards for the sacrifice of my body.

I will endeavour to get back into my pre-preggy jeans once more, but I carry my stretch-marks and spider
veins with pride as having them means I have my 3 beautiful kids.

Here’s to plenty more post-preggy shopping as I decrease in size.

Cheers vir Eers

- Toppie se Vrou

Wednesday, 24 October 2012

The innocence of kids

A while ago my mother in law came to visit us with our Nephew. He’s 3.5 years old now, very eager to learn and very opinionated.

I just had to laugh when he says to me: “Tannie Tantal, hoekom het julle so klein TV? “

(Now we have a 40’ flat screen TV, not small in my books at all.)

He carried on by telling me: “Ek en my mamma het n grooter eene.”

It makes me think of how kids are so innocent, their minds still untainted by, brands, products, money, etc. It makes me want to keep my children young and innocent for as long as possible.

Cheers vir Eers

- Toppie se Vrou

Tuesday, 23 October 2012


On the day we were meant to leave the hospital with Codi-Beth the Paediatrician says we need to have some blood tests, as it looks like Baby Codi is very yellow and may have Jaundice. We have to have blood taken and if some blood count (blank stare as I have no idea what blood count) is too high, she will have to have Phototherapy (more blank stares).

We have blood taken, and wait for the results which confirm that THE blood count is high. We have 2 options, treat the Jaundice with phototherapy in hospital, or hire UV lights and do the treatment at home. We opt for the “at home” treatment and off we go to our clinic who also happen to be our midwives and get lights and are explained how to treat the Jaundice.

Basically Codi had to lie under the UV lights with only a nappy, a beanie over her eyes (Not because the lights are harmful to her eyes, but because they are bright and would cause her not to sleep) and socks to keep some body heat in, as she has zero body fat and would be lying practically nude. We were also told to put a heater on in the room to help with the body heat issue. Luckily after a day of light treatment and new blood tests, THE blood count was down and she didn’t need the treatment anymore.

Honestly, I had no clue what they were talking about, so I decided to educate myself a little bit.

Jaundice or Yellow Jaundice is a condition that causes a baby’s skin and white part of their eye’s to look yellow. This is caused when baby has too much bilirubin (THE blood count thing) in their blood. The doctor has a chart by which he determines if the bilirubin count is too high and would need treatment or if it can be left to go away on its own (based on weight of baby and the blood test results). In most cases Jaundice will go away on its own, but sometimes the phototherapy is needed. The phototherapy breaks down the bilirubin and allows it to be passed through the system more easily.

Jaundice is not usually a problem, but in some cases too much bilirubin can cause brain damage. That’s why the doctors are so cautious when treating it.

Cheers vir Eers


-          Toppie se Vrou

Meet Toppie se Dogtertjie…

Our Beautiful baby girl Codi-Beth le Roux was born Monday 15 October 2012 at 14:15.

She was a little small at 2.39kg, but just as tall as her brothers at birth at 49cm.

Her Apgar score was 9/10 at 1 min and 10/10 at 5 min so there was nothing to be worried about.

Its like she was always there J





Cheers vir Eers

- Toppie se Vrou

Monday, 15 October 2012

My biggest fear...

Today's the day, finally. and well im scared... I'm not scared of the procedure, or being in hospital, or coping with baby.

My fear is a deep in my gut, makes me want to cry if I think about it.When you become a mother, you instinctively are safer,

you are more careful, more alert, more aware. Of EVERYTHING! You drive slower, you double check your area. You just do, I

don't know why, but you do.

My fear is that something will go wrong and I won't come home to my boys...

That my children will grow up without me, to teach, nurture and love them.

Who will kiss them goodnight, who will comfort them, and protect them. They need me

That's my job.

That's my biggest fear.

Cheers vir Eers
- Toppie se vrou

Tuesday, 9 October 2012

I never understood, but now I do….

You hear of moms who drink castor oil, run 10km or stick a knitting needle up there to induce early labour. I’ve never understood how they could do that, its crazy right?

This is my third pregnancy, and I’ve never enjoyed pregnancy at all. Yes, I did it 3 times. Don’t get me wrong, I love my children, I love them with all my heart. I just wish there was a way to get them without having to be pregnant. Maybe one of those alien like machines where you can watch your baby grow, from a distance and go fetch them when 9 months is up?

Yesterday I had my last checkup with the doctor. I’ve been hinting at having baby at 38 weeks since the 2nd visit. I went to the doctor, hospital bag packed, ready for him to book me in and take Codi out. I really have had enough, I’m so hormonal, I’m nasty to the kids and my Toppie, I’m grumpy, I feel fat. My hands and feet are on fire, my body is aching in places I didn’t even know I had. I’m tired of not being able to pick things up or move normally or fit into my normal clothes. I’m tired, sluggish and really just want a break. I work for myself so my maternity leave is the equivalent of the 3 days I’m in hospital and I want that! My 3 days off!!!

Maybe it sounds a little selfish, but I don’t want to be pregnant anymore. After basically begging the doctor to take Codi out yesterday and being looked at like a bad mother because I didn’t want to hear the “medical” reason he couldn’t take her out yet. I left the hospital in tears, cried for about 3 hours, and spent the rest of the day feeling sorry for myself.

I now completely understand why women would go to such extremes to get “Un-pregnant”. For a fraction of a millisecond I thought of considering it. I would never do anything to hurt my child though and I’m not crazy. I just understand now.

Cheers vir Eers

Thursday, 4 October 2012

There’s no excuse

Today I’m taking Coel for yet another set of injections.

These every so often vaccinations mess with a person’s schedule. They take up time and they make your little one unhappy. Not to mention the cost if you go private.

Not taking your child for them because of the above is not an excuse though. Our government supplies the most important one’s free of charge. You just have to make the time to sit in a clinic and get them. Cost is therefore also an excuse. Yet I’m still hearing of mothers who aren’t taking their children to the clinic for their vaccinations….

The thing that gets me the most is that these same people who “can’t” afford vaccines, can afford other luxuries like alcoholic drinks and cigarettes… They can also spend time shopping or on the golf course. We’re fortunate to have found a semi-private clinic. Basically, they supply government stock wherever possible, and only charge for private injections if they don’t have stock or if there are additional injections. We pay a small consultation fee (R130) to have a booked appointment and avoid hours of sitting in a clinic, and the qualified mid-wife does the injection as well as test other things in your child’s development. I’m prepared to pay for that convenience. The Sisters are friendly, helpful and are on call via their cellphones if you have any parenting questions.

Do people not realize that not vaccinating your child, could lead to dead if your child catches any number of contagious diseases that can be prevented by vaccination. Whooping cough for example? I’ve even heard of children dying from measles. What if your child passes such contagious diseases on to babies that are too young to be vaccinated?

Ir makes me very angry. Anyhow….

Cheers vir Eers

- Toppie se vrou

Wednesday, 3 October 2012

Getting ready for the hospital

They say you should have your hospital bag packed a month before your due date, in case baby decides to come early. HA… with Calum, I packed the night before. With Coel I packed about a week before, I had a feeling that it was needed, and it was, when my water broke we could just go to the hospital.

With Codi, I have been stressing about my hospital bag, but do you think I could get around to packing it? I couldn’t bring myself to pack a bag full of PINK things. I finally did it this morning.

My baby Essentials for the hospital (Round 3)

- 20 newborn size nappies

- Nappy liners (they make the small nappies fit a little better)

- Wet wipes

- 4 vests

- 4 baby grows

- 2 blankets

- Baby towel

- Surgical spirits

- Cotton wool

- Baby wash

- Baby cream

- Baby powder

- Fissan paste

- 2 baby bottles, just in case the Breast feeding doesn’t work out as planned

- A Dummy

- Gripe water

As for my bag – well that will have to wait till tomorrow.

Cheers vir Eers

- Toppie se Vrou

Friday, 21 September 2012

The big fall

Yesterday morning in a moment of slight brainlessness, we me and Mary were working in the kitchen,
we put Coel on the counter and basically turned our backs for a split second. Well… My poor little man
ended up on the floor, screaming his head off.

Now I don’t usually worry too much when the kids fall, they don’t usually fall from the kitchen counter and
everyone knows kids are top heavy and are most likely to fall on their heads, but his poor head swelled
up like Frankenstein on one side, he couldn’t keep his eye open and I was struggling to keep him awake.
We’ve always been told that when a child has a fall on the head, they shouldn’t sleep for at least a half
an hour as they may go into Acoma. Well I couldn’t keep him awake and I panicked. My parents work quite
close to where we stay so they rushed over, so my mom could keep Coel awake while we went to casualties.

We got there, and he was smiling and happy, the doctor checked him out, and sent him for x-rays as a
precaution and also so that he could be monitored and near the doctor for at least an hour in case
there was something to be worried about.


Luckily, nothing was wrong, no skull fractures or anything of the kind. No internal bleeding and no
concussion. The doctor mentioned that it is a misconception that we need to keep a kid awake
if they fall on their head, but that we must just watch they don’t lose consciousness. This didn’t
make much sense, how would you know the difference. So I did a little research and found this
interesting article on head injuries in kids. Hope it helps you all.

I’ve sure learnt my lesson and won’t be having any more moments of brainlessness anytime soon.

Cheers vir Eers

- Toppie se Vrou

Head Injuries

Head injuries fall into two categories:

1. external (usually scalp) injuries

2. internal head injuries, which may involve the skull, the blood vessels within
the skull, or the brain

Fortunately, most childhood falls or blows to the head result in injury to the scalp only,
which is usually more frightening than threatening. An internal head injury could have
more serious implications because it may result in bleeding or bruising of the

External (Scalp) Injuries

The scalp is rich with blood vessels, so even a minor cut there can bleed profusely. The
"goose egg" or swelling that may appear after a head blow is the result of the scalp's
veins leaking fluid or blood into (and under) the scalp. It may take days or even a week to disappear.

What to look for and what to do:

* Call the doctor if your child is an infant; has lost consciousness, even
momentarily; or if a child of any age has any of these symptoms:

o won't stop crying

o complains of head and neck pain

o vomits repeatedly

o difficult to awaken

o becomes difficult to console

o isn't walking normally

* If your child is not an infant, has not lost consciousness, and is alert and
behaving normally after the fall or blow:

o Apply an ice pack or instant cold pack to the injured area for 20 minutes
every 3 to 4 hours. If you use ice, always wrap it in a washcloth or sock;
ice applied directly to bare skin can cause cold injury to the skin.

o Observe your child carefully for the next 24 hours. If you notice any
of the signs of internal injury (see below), call your doctor immediately.

o If the incident has occurred close to bedtime or naptime and your child
falls asleep soon afterward, check in once or twice to also check for
disturbances in color or breathing.

* If color and breathing are normal, and you observe or sense no other
abnormalities, let your child sleep (unless the doctor has advised otherwise).
There's no need to keep a child awake after a head injury.

* If you aren't comfortable with your child's appearance (trust your instincts),
rouse your child partially by sitting him or her up. Your child should fuss a
bit and attempt to resettle. If he or she doesn't protest, try to awaken your
child fully. If your child can't be awakened or shows any signs of internal injury
(see below), call the doctor or an ambulance.

Suspected Internal Injury

The brain is cushioned by cerebrospinal fluid, but a severe blow to the head may knock the
brain into the side of the skull or tear blood vessels. Some internal head injuries —
complications of a fractured skull, torn blood vessels, or damage to the brain itself —
can be serious and possibly life threatening.

Different levels of injury require different levels of concern. It can be difficult to determine
the level of injury, so it's always wise to discuss a head injury with your doctor.

What to Look for and What to Do

Call 911 if your child shows any of these symptoms after a head injury:

* -unconsciousness for more than a few minutes

* -abnormal breathing

* -obvious serious wound

* -bleeding or clear fluid from the nose, ear, or mouth

* -disturbance of speech or vision

* -pupils of unequal size

* -weakness or paralysis

* -neck pain or stiffness

If your child is unconscious:

* -Do not try to move your child in case there is a neck or spine injury.

* -Call for help.

* -Turn a child who is vomiting or having a seizure onto his or her side while trying
to keep the head and neck straight. This will help prevent choking and provide
protection in case of neck and spine injury.

If your child is conscious:

* -Do your best to keep your child calm and still.

* -If there's bleeding, apply a clean or sterile bandage.

* -Do not attempt to cleanse the wound, which may aggravate bleeding and/or
cause serious complications if the skull is fractured.

* -Do not apply direct pressure to the wound if you suspect the skull is fractured.

* -Do not remove any object that's stuck in the wound.


Concussions are also a type of internal head injury. A concussion is the temporary loss of
normal brain function due to an injury. Repeated concussions can result in permanent injury
to the brain. However, it's possible to get a concussion that's mild and doesn't result in
long-term damage.

One of the most common reasons kids get concussions is through sports, so make sure
yours wear appropriate protective gear and don't let them continue to play if they've had
a head injury.

If your child sustains an injury to the head, watch for these signs of a possible concussion:

* -"seeing stars" and feeling dazed, dizzy, or lightheaded

* -memory loss, such as trouble remembering what happened right before and after the injury

* -vomiting

* -headaches

* -blurred vision and sensitivity to light

* -slurred speech or saying things that don't make sense

* -difficulty concentrating, thinking, or making decisions

* -difficulty with coordination or balance (such as being - a concussion, call your
doctor for further instructions.

Preventing Head Injuries

It's impossible to prevent kids from ever being injured, but there are ways to help prevent head blows.

Make sure that:

* -your home is childproofed to prevent household accidents

* -your kids always wear appropriate headgear and safety -equipment when , in-line skating, skateboarding, -snowboarding or skiing, and playing contactsports. -Wearing an appropriately fitting bike helmet, for instance, reduces the
risk of head injury by about 85%.

* -your child takes it easy after a head injury, especially if there is a concussion

* -your child doesn't go back to rough play or playing sports until the doctor gives
approval. (If your child reinjures the brain while it's still healing, it will take even
more time to completely heal.)

Reviewed by: Kate M. Cronan, MD
Date reviewed: January 2011